Rejection and loneliness, they often times walk hand in hand

One can open the door for the other and each one may turn the key so Satan can bring someone to their knees.

They can both be a learning tool, a stop sign that is telling us maybe we are heading down the wrong path and need to turn around,

Lamentations 1:1-4 How[a] she sits alone, the city once crowded with people! She who was great among the nations has become like a widow. The princess among the provinces has been put to forced labor.

She weeps aloud during the night, with tears on her cheeks. There is no one to offer her comfort, not one from all her lovers.[b] All her friends have betrayed her; they have become her enemies.

Judah has gone into exile following[c] affliction and harsh slavery; she lives among the nations but finds no place to rest. All her pursuers have overtaken her in narrow places.

The roads to Zion mourn, for no one comes to the appointed festivals. All her gates are deserted; her priests groan, her young women grieve, and she herself is bitter.

Have you ever felt that way?

  • Everyone has abandon you, friends, family even the dog lays in the other room.
  • The whole world is against me and all I have is this celery stick to keep me company.

Reading these 4 verses, we can sense the pain of loneliness; feel the torture being placed on Judah because of her past boastfulness, her sinfulness and her wiliness to do it her way and forget everyone else, including God.

 

God had rejected their lifestyle and the self preservation they had for themselves.

  • We can do it our way
  • We don’t need anyone help

 

God’s plan for our lives doesn’t include loneliness? It doesn’t include for us to set around feeling sorry for ourselves while the rest of the world travels on by.  But when we place ourselves before His will, His plan can include some form of rejection just like Israel.

He wants our humble hearts not our boastful minds.

Jesus said He would never reject us and this is true but when we like the Israelites start to feel as if we don’t need God, we can do it on our own, and I will live the life style I choose.

Well God has shown many times He will step back and allow us to lead ourselves right snack into a wall.

Proverbs 16:4 The Lord has prepared everything for His purpose even the wicked for the day of disaster.

Loneliness is a side dish to rejection, when we feel rejected, our lonely meter starts to peg and soon we feel as if the whole world is against us. “Nobody cares, I don’t matter to anyone.”

And soon the pity party is in full swing and me, myself and I are the VIP’s.

No one likes being rejected. When we are rejected one of the first things we do is try to rationalize as why we were rejected in the first place and that is when our survival instincts kick in.

“I am right, they are wrong” and soon we are standing in the dark trying to paint a precious painting with a bucket of paint and mop head.

In Genesis 2:15-2, we read where and how God created Adam and how God knew Adam needed a mate so he wouldn’t be lonely.

But can you image how Adam would have felt if after the first time Eve met Adam, her first comments went something like:

  • Really, this is it; I’m supposed to start a world with this guy?

Rejection is a powerful tool to the mind, we all have felt it and I’m sad to say we have all probable done it.

Once we join the family of God, we will never be lonely again spiritual but humanly we can still build a wall of rejection and loneliness.

You want to know what loneliness looks like. Visit a funeral home or a cemetery when the dead has no one to come say good by.

Looking back in the bible, we see where it was the sins and wrong doings of Judah that brought this on them.

Proverbs 16:2-5 All a man’s ways seem right to him, but the Lord evaluates the motives.Commit your activities to the Lord, and your plans will be achieved. The Lord has prepared everything for His purpose even the wicked for the day of disaster. Everyone with a proud heart is detestable to the Lord; be assured,[b] he will not go unpunished.

Now I’m not saying everybody who is feeling lonely has committed sin and is living the life as a wicked person. But when we start to feel down and think nobody loves me, everybody hates me, it is a good time to evaluate our life and see if there is anything the Lord wants us to change.

  • The Lord wants us to fellowship
  • Spend time with family
  • Make new friends

Even if that means you make or take the first step.

Loneliness is a dark, dark place no one should have to visit for a moderate amount of time.

Setting around all day long doing nothing by yourself, talking to your self is ammo for Satan.

Proverbs 16:27 (Living bible) Idle hands are the devil’s workshop; idle lips are his mouthpiece.

 

SO how do we fight loneliness,

  • If your family will not come visit, go visit them
  • If old friends are too busy for you. Make new ones
  • If you are living at home, get out and visit people living in nursing homes or hospitals

It is natural and most common to feel loneliness when we lose a friend or loved one, we can feel as if our very hearts were ripped into.

And this is OK because this is love and the pain that goes with it. But to withdraw from friends and family just because we might be set in our ways is not ok and we need to seek out the Lord to show us a path out of the darkness we are finding ourselves in.

When we start to sense the darkest close around us that is the time we need to cry out to the Lord and ask for the light of friendship.

I’m not saying go out and find another women or man to fill the companionship but simply having friends to call or visit will help to keep the light shinning.

Now I will admit I am the worse of calling on friends or family, but I do try to keep in contact with them at some pace. If for no other reason than to know if something was to happen to my wife, I could still have a ear to listen to me.

Lamentations 1:7 During the days of her affliction and homelessness Jerusalem remembers all her precious belongings that were hers in days of old. When her people fell into the adversary’s hand, she had no one to help. The adversaries looked at her, laughing over her downfall.

The Lord gives us Friendship and families so we have someone to turn to when thing go haywire and things start to fall apart in our lives.

Yes we can turn to the Lord and draw closer to Him, but even Moses had Aaron, Paul had Timothy, and Mary had Mary and the other Mary.

 

Helping one in need

How do we act, what do we say when we have a friend that has started to build a wall? Block by block they place them around themselves and it looks as if all is lost in the world.

  1. Call them more often, talk about new stuff as well as the old
  2. Visit with them
  3. Take them out for a ice cream or a new celery stick

But do something, we don’t know how many blocks each wall holds, we don’t know at what point, the tweed will snap and those who are lonely or feel rejected will feel a long sleep might be better than a long walk.

Some have placed that last block in place and there is no hope but when we ask the Lord to intervene the blocks will start to crumble.

Are these all the answers to all the questions on loneliness? No but unless we face the fact that we are seeking the dark instead of the light, unless we are willing to help a friend, brother or sister there will be only one question left to ask?

Who will carry my casket?

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